Find your way back to the vision that brought you together in the first place.
Bringing two beings of light together is no small task. Sometimes, we lose our way in the journey of loving each other, inevitably rubbing against each other’s rough edges, triggering trauma, pettiness, hopelessness, and fear.
Let Katie guide you as you walk the path back to connection.
How I work
The couples packages begin with a complimentary session to check for connection and purpose. Once we get to work, the pattern is a simple back and forth: individual session for each partner, followed by a couples session.
Making beauty out of the gnarl in your relationship is delicate work. I must listen deeply and earnestly to all the truths. In your anger, and in your grief, there is highly useful information!
When the couple comes together, we create a space is for the vision and needs of the relationship itself, to be considered, seen, and supported.
Why individual sessions?
The first movement happens most profoundly in our inner landscape, in our intimate relationship with ourselves. We begin with the Energy Leadership Index, which provides both the master template and our own personal pattern for experiencing our life.
The ELI helps us understand, neutrally and clearly, how you approach challenges. It reveals your deepest patterns, the ones that live just below consciousness, the ones to which your partner is a daily witness.
The pattern that yearns for love. The pattern that pushes love away.
After this deep self-discovery, you return to the couple’s session with more clarity and understanding – both for yourself, and for your partner.
Individual sessions create space for each of you to be seen, to process your feelings and to consider how you wish to show up in your relationship.
Now we can begin afresh to see our partner ‘whole against the sky.’ This deep seeing of the other is a fundamental longing that we each carry. It is the balm for some of our deepest wounds.
And, pragmatically, it also gives each of you some much needed perspective.
Opening up to each other, again
Couple’s sessions are different when there has been individual processing. When someone has taken the time to peel back the layers of your inner feelings and logic to really understand your perspective – without charge and without judgement – something in your inner world relaxes.
In the couple’s session, you no longer feel alone. Someone understands and can help your partner understand. Someone is looking at the big picture and can help you identify when you might be spinning in a pattern, or when you might have stepped out of alignment with your own yearning.
As more truth emerges, you begin to trust. The trust clears a path.
In the couple’s sessions you will cultivate the soft skills of vulnerability and sensitivity even as you practice getting real and honest. All the while you are building your personal and relational resilience; the capacity to roll up your sleeves and try again.
Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky.
Rainer Maria Rilke
Introductory
2-month package
3 couples sessions
2 ELI assessments and debrief
4 individual sessions
Clarity
3-month package
4 couples sessions
2 ELI assessments and debrief
8 individual sessions
Transformational
6-month package
6 couples sessions
2 ELI assessments and debrief
10 individual sessions